ACoN Resources

My name is Rachael, and I am an ACoN.

ACoN is an acronym for Adult Child of Narcissists. 

This page is meant to be a resource for everything that I have ever read or been given and found useful in my attempts to understand the narcissistic abuse I experienced as a child. With that in mind, my attempt is to also post good vibes and Christian views to help others who find it useful in their journey of recovery. 

So here is a collection of helpful links that I hope will guide you and give you the strength to break free from your narc.
I am not a behavioral psychologist; I do not have a degree and I cannot diagnose for you or others what their behavioral disorders are/might be.

Useful terms when dealing with Narcs:

• Narc: short for narcissist. Comes in a variety of forms.
• NF: Narcissist Father
• NM: Narcissist Mother
• MIL/FIL: Mother-in-law, Father-in-Law
• SIL/BIL: Sister-in-law, Brother-in-Law
• ACoN: title explained this
• Flying Monkey (FM): the lapdog of a narcissist who attacks you when you stop relating to/having contact with your abuser.
• NC: No contact
• LC/VLC: Low contact, very low contact

Reddit Communities: 

• Raised by Narcissists or RBN for short
• Where to start if you think you're an ACoN: here
• RBN basics: Narcissism Basics
• JustNoMIL: This site is for people with Narc MILs; I forewarn you, the language and tone of this particular community is usually angry, and with just cause. It is more vent-style than support-style
• ACoN Support Communities: A comprehensive collection--with handy list on the right side-- of all the ACoN support communities on Reddit.

Tactics of Narcs:

• JADE

Articles to Explain:

• The Scapegoated Child: I read this about a month after my NM visited me. I cried. I hope it provides the healing you seek and is one of the most excellent explanations of the vicious cycle of narcissistic abuse I have ever read.
• Six Kinds of Emotional Abuse By Narcissistic Parents
• Why Empaths Attract Narcissists

Articles that Were Personally Affirming to My Experiences

• The Empty Bowl by Cheryl Strayed--yes, that one from Wild
• 24 Traits of a Narcissistic Mother
• Toxic Mothers

Books:

• Complex PTSD by Pete Walker
• The Body Keeps The Score
• The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog

ACoN Blogs/Support Sites

• The ACoN Society
• Releasing Jessie
• Out of The FOG
• Issendai: I don't quite know the purpose of this blog, but it has some of the best information I've ever read on the psychology of narcs.
• What to Remember When Dealing With A Narcissist
• Down The Rabbit Hole: The World of Estranged Parents and Their Children